问HN：我决定不再做软件工程师了 – 接下来该怎么办？
我最近花了六个月的时间在一个创业公司工作。我们在一个知名的加速器中获得了相当不错的势头，并且有一个有潜力的想法，但不幸的是，种子资金就是没有到位。30岁的时候，做这件事没有薪水（而且费用也没有覆盖）似乎还可以，至少在几个月内是这样。但到现在，我有点撑不下去了。
我的联合创始人不理解我为什么不再想无薪工作……还有其他迹象表明我们的关系已经破裂等。我计划在本周末告诉他我退出。
当这些感觉开始困扰我时，我开始面试……加速器的风险投资人向我的联合创始人泄露了他们“听说过招聘人员”的事情。这实际上是我经历过的最不专业的隐私侵犯，因此我觉得我可能不再想在软件行业工作了（别问我对旧金山的看法）。
我已经做了六年，显然我不够优秀（如今的技术面试简直荒谬），即使作为多家公司的创始人（其中一家成功退出）和拥有丰富的软件工程经验，我也不再吸引那些高薪职位。我意识到我其实并不喜欢编程或准备面试——这一切都让我感到厌烦，并让我觉得自己像个傻瓜。
话虽如此，我对接下来该做什么毫无头绪，感到莫名其妙的迷茫。我的年龄对此并没有帮助，我完全陷入了空白。我真的没有钱去上研究生院，而且开发职位似乎变得越来越竞争激烈。也许我曾经是个不错的工程师，但现在我只觉得迷失和害怕。
30岁时，我不再在乎名声，我的大多数朋友赚的钱比我多，或者已经有家庭。在这里，作为一个成年人似乎意味着承认创业可能是我人生中做过的最愚蠢的事情。
这听起来可能很多，但这是我第一次在生活中同时遇到这么多问题。还有其他人从科技行业转行并且仍然能赚到不错的收入吗？
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I recently spent the past six months working on a startup. We had a fair bit of momentum coming out of a well known accelerator and an idea with traction, but unfortunately the money just didn't quite show up for the seed. At 30, doing this without pay (and expenses covered) seemed like an ok idea, at least for a few months. But at this point I'm kind of done.<p>Co-founder didn't understand why I wasn't interested working without salary anymore... there were other signs the relationship had broken down etc. Planning on letting him know I'm out near the end of this week.<p>I started interviewing when these feelings started to get to me and... the VC from the accelerator ratted to my co-founder that they'd "heard from recruiters". This was effectively the most unprofessional breach of privacy I've ever experienced and as a result I think I'm done working in software (don't even ask me my opinion of SF).<p>I've been doing this six years, clearly I'm not good enough (tech screens these days are ridiculous) and even as a founder of multiple previous companies (with one exit) and lots of SWE experience I'm no longer attractive for roles that pay well. I've come to realize I don't really even enjoy programming or prepping for interviews - it all feels grating and makes me feel like an idiot.<p>That said, I have no idea what to do next and feel inexplicably lost. My age doesn't help this, but I'm fully drawing a blank. I don't really have money to go to grad school and it appears that dev roles are just getting more competitive. Maybe I was an ok engineer for a while, but I just feel lost and scared.<p>At 30 I don't care about clout anymore, most of my friends make way more money than me or have families. Being an adult here seems like acknowledging doing startups is maybe the dumbest thing I could've done with my life.<p>This probably sounds like a lot, but it's the first time I've run up against this many things going wrong in my life at once. Anyone else pivot away from tech and still make half-decent income?