请问HN：麻省理工学院毕业生，初级开发者裁员——看到我的女儿对能力失去信心
我的女儿遵循了这里每个人推荐的成功路径：麻省理工学院、编程竞赛、强有力的实习，没有任何捷径。<p>她被聘为初级开发者，但在二月份被裁员。<p>从那时起，我目睹了她的自信心实时崩溃。她开始孤立自己，几乎不说话。大部分时间都待在房间里申请工作、等待，却只得到沉默。最近我看到她独自哭泣，努力不让人注意到。这时我才意识到这对她的影响有多深。<p>这次裁员不仅仅是失去了一份薪水，更是剥夺了她对努力与结果相关性的信念。每一次拒绝都在强化这样一个观念：她所做的一切都毫无意义。<p>现在是圣诞节，我们却没有庆祝。没有装饰，也不假装一切都好。作为父母，我感到完全崩溃，主要是因为我没有答案。我多年来告诉她，能力会保护她，但事实并非如此。<p>所以我直接向这个社区发问：这只是时机不对和运气不好，还是现在初级岗位的“阶梯”真的坏了？这个阶段在现实中会持续多久，而不是理论上。实际上，什么能帮助一个人在他们的第一份真正的工作以这样的方式结束后情感上恢复？<p>我希望能得到诚实的回答，而不是空洞的客套话。
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My daughter followed the playbook everyone here recommends. MIT. Programming olympiads. Strong internships. No shortcuts.<p>She was hired as a junior developer and laid off in February.<p>Since then, I’ve watched her confidence collapse in real time. She isolates herself. She barely talks. She spends most days in her room applying, waiting, and getting silence. I recently saw her crying alone, trying not to be noticed. That’s when it hit me how deeply this has affected her.<p>This layoff didn’t just remove a paycheck. It removed her belief that effort correlates with outcomes. Every rejection reinforces the idea that none of what she did mattered.<p>It’s Christmas and we aren’t celebrating. No decorations. No pretending things are okay. I’m completely shattered as a parent, mostly because I don’t have answers. I told her for years that merit would protect her. It didn’t.<p>So I’m asking this community directly.
Is this just timing and bad luck, or is the ladder actually broken for juniors right now. How long does this phase last in reality, not theory. And what actually helps someone recover emotionally when their first real job ends like this.<p>I’d appreciate honest answers, not platitudes.