19岁的孤独，如何应对？
我是一名大学生，生活中一直感到孤独。这对我的心理健康造成了很大的影响，但那是另一个故事。我从来没有能够交到朋友，也无法维持长久的有意义的关系。事实上，我甚至可以说我从来没有真正的朋友，现在也没有。我的手机里没有任何联系人，去学校时没有人和我说话，当我找到一些似乎对我有兴趣的人时，这种关系通常也不会持续太久，因为他们并不重视我们之间的联系。就我所知，我是一个可以忍受的人。人们觉得我很有趣，当我和别人交谈时，我们的对话还算不错（尽管闲聊往往让我感到无聊）。然而，这些都没有带来任何实质性的结果，也没有给我带来任何安慰或满足感。我把自己缺乏朋友的原因归结为自己身上的问题。也许我长得不好看，也许我不够幽默，也许我很笨。我不知道这是否是正确的想法。但我尝试了很多不同的方法，读了许多不同的书，然而仍然没有人愿意关心我，甚至不愿意问我今天过得怎么样，或者在我邀请他们一起出去时愿意陪我。<p>我该怎么办？难道我就要孤独地度过一生，没有任何陪伴和人际关系吗？
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I am a college student and for my entire life I have been lonely. This is probably taken a very heavy toll on my mental health but that’s another story. I’ve never been able to make friends and keep meaningful connections that last a long time. In fact I’d go as far as saying I have never had a friend, and I currently don’t have any. My phone is empty, when I go to school nobody talks to me and when I do find people who seem to have some kind of interest in me, it usually doesn’t last very long since they don’t prioritize whatever we have. As far as I’m aware I am tolerable to be around. People find me funny and when I do talk to people we have decent conversations (though small talk tends to bore me). However that doesn’t lead anywhere and doesn’t bring me any kind of comfort or fulfillment. I’ve attributed my lack of friends to something that places all the blame on me. Maybe I’m ugly, maybe I’m not funny enough, maybe I’m dumb. I don’t know if that’s the right approach. But I’ve tried so many different things, I’ve read so many different books and yet I still can’t get anyone to even bother to ask me how my day was or care to actually do something and hang out with me when I ask if they’d like too.<p>What am I supposed to do? Be lonely and without any kind of company and human connection my entire life?