国家，10万美元的储蓄：我应该住在哪里？
亲爱的大家，
这可能听起来有些奇怪，抱歉让我问这个问题。我因为童年创伤而感到极大的犹豫不决，无法做出选择。我36岁，男性，单身，和父母住在土耳其。我在一份薪水不高、要求不高的工作中全职远程工作。我是土耳其人，同时拥有葡萄牙和阿尔巴尼亚的居留权。我与父母之间存在依赖问题，我需要最终打破这种关系，但内心深处有一部分不想这样做。由于严重的童年创伤，我在情感上不够成熟，但我努力在生活中尽力而为。
所以我的困境是：我该住在哪里？实际上所有选项对我来说都可以，所以这个决定并不明确。我的选择是：在我的家乡或其他城市为自己购买（或租赁）一套公寓（我在家乡已经有一套出租的公寓，租金大约为500欧元）。或者，搬到葡萄牙，保持我的居留权，并从那里做一份薪水为1300欧元的工作，我可以在那儿租房或买房（如果我卖掉在土耳其的公寓的话）。或者，带着这份工作搬到阿尔巴尼亚，在那里租房或买房。
除了我的工资和租金收入，我还有大约10万美元的储蓄。我希望结婚，拥有自己的家庭，并在各个方面变得稳定（尽可能地）。
对于所有的选择，我都喜欢其中的一部分，但没有哪个选择足够明显成为明确的选择。你们会考虑哪些选项，为什么？请帮我做出选择，并提供你的理由。
谢谢大家！
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Dear All,<p>This may sound weird, and sorry for asking it. I have immense indecision due to childhood trauma and cannot decide on something. I'm 36, M, single, living with my parents in Turkey. I work 100% remotely with a shitty-paying, not-so-demanding job. I'm Turkish and also have Portuguese and Albanian residency. I have dependency issues with my parents which I need to eventually break, but a part of me doesn't want to. I'm emotionally immature due to severe childhood trauma, but I try to function at my best in life.<p>So the dilemma is: where to live? All options work for me actually, so for me the decision ain't loud and clear. My choices are buying (or renting) an apartment for myself either in my home city or any other city (I already have an apartment in my home city that is rented out, paying me around 500 EUR). Or, moving to Portugal to keep my residency active and working the 1300 EUR-paying job from there, where I can either rent or buy property (if I sell my apartment in Turkey). Or, moving to Albania with this job, renting or buying an apartment there.<p>I have about 100k USD in savings besides my salary and rent income. I hope to marry, have my own family, and become stable in all aspects (as much as possible).<p>With all choices, I like a part of them, but none is dominant enough to become the clear choice. Which options would you consider, and why? Please help me choose and provide your reasoning.<p>THANK YOU ALL!